Letting go is hard to do, I admit it. Relationships, jobs, places, and everything in between… I struggle big time. For the last couple of months, I’ve been feeling like my time is up with my company and my position. It’s not like a terrible thing happened and I was fed up all of a sudden, rather a progression of things that made me think I could do better. I could do more, I could learn more, I could grow more.
Archives for September 2017
September is one of the most popular months to get married and what better way to relish in the wedding season than to learn about one from the bride herself?
In today’s guest post, my friend and coworker Gwyn Artkop shares her experience eloping in Hawaii. Gwyn got married in June 2016 in Holualoa, Hawaii to her boyfriend of 3 years, Jared. I’ve always been curious about her wedding and the elopement process, and I’m so excited that she agreed to do a post on my blog all about it!
Here’s our interview:
Hi guys, how was your weekend? I attended my annual company picnic on Saturday, then met up with some friends at night at a cool restaurant and wine bar in Middletown, CT. On Sunday, I saw one of my besties, Karolina. Her boyfriend is training for a marathon, so we walked along The Farmington River Trail while he was on his long run. It was really inspiring me to do another race!
Crochet Tie-Dye Dress | Similar hat Do you ever look at someone and think they have a perfect life? The perfect job, the perfect relationship, the perfect friends? And somehow, they’re also naturally beautiful and always doing amazing things in life? You think “OMG how does she look so cute all the time?” and “WHY IS SHE ALWAYS SO HAPPY?” Suddenly, everything you’ve ever accomplished doesn’t matter because you’re never going to measure up to this person.
This post is as much for me as it is for you because it’s something I’ve been struggling with lately. In the age of social media, it’s hard NOT to compare yourself. And I’m not talking about comparing yourself to celebrities or models, but people you know, your peers.
I think Facebook is terrible for this and it’s a big reason why I deactivated my account years ago (I do have a new profile now to manage my company’s social media, but barely use it for anything else) and the other social networks aren’t any better. However, social media isn’t going away, so it’s best we learn how to cope with the comparison game now.
Comparing yourself to others is never fair. Unless you have had the same exact upbringing and essentially lived the same life, it’s impossible to compare yourself to another person. We all have different pasts and purposes in life.
Also, I’m gonna go out on a limb and say that the person you’ve been idolizing, you probably don’t know very well. If you did, you’d know his or her scars and imperfections. When you’re comparing yourself to someone else, you’re typically comparing your worst self to his or her best self, which, again, is completely unfair. It’s easy to see someone’s best self on social media but you never know what that person is truly going through.
Here’s how you can stop comparing yourself to others:
Practice gratitude– There’s a quote I always think about by Oprah that goes: “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” When you’re in a lack mindset, you can never be satisfied because you’re always looking for the next thing. So, give yourself some credit and be grateful for how far you’ve come now.
Find something you’re excited about– I think “passionate” is a big scary word sometimes, so I say focus on doing things that excite you. Maybe it’s painting, maybe it’s running, maybe it’s volunteering. For me, this blogging thing is what gets me excited. It might sound vain, but when I focus on myself and what I enjoy doing, I have less time to worry about what other people are doing.
Remember, you are uniquely you- There’s no one else in the world like you, and that’s for a reason. Your job is to figure out what your special gifts are and share them. Success is in the eye of the beholder, so define what success and happiness mean to you. Set your own goals and work towards them. No-one can live out your calling better than you can.
Don’t get jealous, get inspired– At the end of the day, you have to accept that other people may be doing “better” than you and that’s OK. In fact, these are the people you should surround yourself with. Instead of getting jealous, get inspired by them. Celebrate their accomplishments and know that you can kick ass too. The only thing holding you back is yourself.
One last thing. I hope I never give off the impression that I have it all figured out or that my life is perfect. I realize this may sound hypocritical considering I have a “fashion” blog, and an Instagram full of pictures of myself all dressed up. The pretty pictures are there to draw people in, but my real goal for the blog – and what I hope to convey in each post is that I’m a normal person just like you, trying to navigate life as best as I can. We’re all in this together (cue High School Musical song).
Hi friends, I don’t know about you but I love fall! There’s something special about the crisp air, changing leaves and all of the fun festivities leading up to Christmas. One of the best parts about living in Connecticut is experiencing the seasons, especially fall. Here is a list of some things to do in Connecticut this fall:
^”Maine” Baked Potato at the Big E
1. Go to a fall fair– This is one of my favorite things to do this time of year! There’s the Durham Fair September 21-24. Also, New England’s Biggest Fair, The Big E which isn’t in Connecticut but close, from September 15-October 1.
4. Visit a Haunted House– There’s the popular Trail of Terror in Wallingford which opens on September 30. This year’s theme is “The Circus is coming to Town” (I can only imagine how terrifying that is going to be).
6. Go on a scenic drive– According to the Fall Foliage Report, October 5-November 8 will be the estimated peak of foliage. Here is a list of the best places to view fall foliage in Connecticut.
8. Do a corn maze– This seems like an awesome corn maze in Thompson, CT! Admission is $12 for adults and $10 for kids under 12 (August 28-November 1). If you’re looking for something a little more adventurous, there’s a Flashlight Maze in Windsor from 6-30pm – 9pm on October 20, 21, 27 and 28.
10. Visit the famous Mark Twain House & Museum– Explore the home of America’s favorite author in Hartford! Starting October 6, you can take a “Graveyard Shift Ghost Tour” and learn more about Mark Twain’s interest in the supernatural. Click here for ticket information!
Happy Labor Day! Yesterday I shared my top labor day sale picks and today I’m bringing you along on my fitting room adventures at Loft, Express, and Target! I don’t know about you but whenever I go shopping and try things on, I always take dressing room photos! I usually send them to my sisters or my friends with a “Yay or Nay?” Not only do I get their opinions, but taking the pictures actually helps me see if something looks good or not.
Here are my fitting room adventures from this weekend, pretty much everything is on sale right now, so take advantage!